Please, take a moment and read it. Then, take another moment and re-read it (it's short). Then, come back here and let me know your thoughts in the comments section.
It's an interesting and intriguing article. I'm curious about what you Cyber Bears think about it too...
I think, when you live in a country with media outlets that bombard you with messages that "you CAN have it all" (work, Motherhood, marriage, etc), you are doomed. Already, if you don't live up to expectations on any of those fronts, you feel "less".
ReplyDeleteWhen we choose what we want to be when we grow up and decide what we are going to do with the rest of our lives (be a Mom, Mom/Professional, Wife, Wife/Mom, whatever), we have to always keep two things in mind: something is going to have to give and that something shouldn't be the people who live in your house.
Bottom line: when you die, you are going to be looking to tell those you love that you are glad they were in your life. If you screw that up, no matter how many medals or books or groupies you have, you will die empty and lonely.
Admittedly, there are people who get close to having it all. But, in my opinion, something/someone suffered for that to happen.
It seems to me that the issue comes when women who do not want to be involved raising children have them in the first place. I don't want the hassle, the runny noses, the diapers, the sleepless nights; therefore, I have a dog. So maybe the issue is really one of a woman believing that she "should" have kids, even if she doesn't have the desire.
ReplyDeleteBalance is a good thing to pursue. Somehow leaving your kids behind in another country while your go after a calling (however noble) doesn't strike me as all that balanced.
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